James V. R. Butler

 

 

 

 

                 The other day I was walking down the hall talking to my friends who are girls and we were talking about who we look like in our family and they asked me do I look like my father and I wanted to just stop talking and leave the conversation alone and I the only answer I just came out and said was that my dad is dead and them just saying “aw” made me feel very bad and even the fact that I have a stepfather for the first time in my life I felt like I was the only one without a father .

   People say that a woman can’t raise a child on her own. I have to strongly disagree because my mother has raised me my whole life. In early July 1989, only days before I was born, my father was killed by a drug dealer in VA because he was a member of the “JBM” which was a organized crime organization. Since then, I believe my mother did a pretty damn good job on her own. I would have to say I didn’t grow up acting like a female or I didn’t use my father not being around as a reason to do wrong. My mother wasn’t on drugs, she was always around for me, and she always kept me fresh .People suggest that just because my father is dead that I don’t have a figure to follow.  After telling people that I look up to my mom instead of a father figure it leaves a funny look on peoples faces.    So yes you could say I am a “mammas boy”, but for that I owe her my life.

I look up to my mother.  I love my mom because she’s strong, always there for me no matter what, and she has the biggest heart of anyone I know.  When I was going through it and my friend past away,

my mommy was the one who held me together from flipping out, for instance just like when my uncle died I was waiting for anyone to say the wrong thing to me so I could snap on them, but she told me that he wasn’t coming back and I just calmed down.

 think looking up to people isn’t gender base so I look up to my mother because she has everything people need in a role model such as when ever anyone in my family is in trouble who everyone calls yours truly my mommy.

To just explain what I mean when I say people use the stereotype that a woman can’t  raise a child on her own it’s not just because the people are white, black, yellow or any nationality they use it for anyone. I